something has changed within me, something is not the same… I’m through with playing by the rules of someone else’s game… too late for second guessing, too late to go back to sleep… it’s time to trust my instincts, close my eyes and leap… it’s time to try defying gravity…
I wrote a post last night, told everyone about it on Instagram and Twitter, sat on my couch, proud that I posted finally, and then I took it down. I deleted the Instagram and Twitter notifications and removed it from my page. I thought a lot about it in the time it took me to walk from my desk to my couch (basically 6 feet?) and did a quick mental run through of the topics I wrote about. And in those 6-ish feet I realized that none of those topics deserved that kind of attention, at least not on this platform. I felt like it was such a petty post and I wanted a do over.
I haven’t written anything of value for like 2 weeks and I was anxious to just post one already. I read it a thousand times and edited the shit out of it, as usual, but when I got to the couch to watch Schitt’s Creek, I fucking cringed. And so I made it disappear. I no longer want to dwell on shit that pissed me off 2 weeks ago. The truth is that in the last 2 weeks I have made really big steps in the right direction (for once) so why would I continue to let the negativity haunt me? More importantly, why should I give it a place holder on my page? I don’t need to bookmark it so I can relive it. I didn’t have any tips or tricks about how I stopped being pissed off so I knew it wouldn’t be valuable to you. So that’s that… moving on!
We are like 10 posts in at this point so you have the general gist of how I lived my life as the victim. Convinced that the universe had it out for me. Making very small things into very big things because, at the time, I thought they were big things. I dramatized things and made them more of a big deal just because I had no idea what I was doing. I’m going to go out on a limb and sound like such a douchebag right now, but there’s this weird wisdom that comes with age. I know, I know, but let me explain. I never expected to feel wise about anything in my life. But I wish I could go back and speak to my younger self and just be like “you fucking idiot, that’s not good for you, why aren’t you seeing that?!” Such a fucking drama queen (eye roll). There were some things that were valid and those are the things that I continue to work on. Everything else can go scratch.
If I am going to be more forward thinking then the change has to come from within. The last few meditations I’ve done have brought me into that forward thinking mindset and have actually made me believe that it’s possible for me. I need to push and trust myself, which is something that I have struggled with forever. I have made some pretty cool discoveries about myself just by starting this blog. Writing it all out has helped me and given me the drive that I was searching for. I have no intention of putting any unnecessary or unrealistic expectations on this blog. But I know that I am supposed to be doing this, so I’m going to keep at it.
My life consists of patterns and familiarity. I am not fearless or careless. Young Me was both of those things. Then life sucker punched me and told me to take it down a few notches. Not only did I take it down a few notches, I eliminated it entirely. So my job right now is to get to the in between, where it’s not too little and not too much. I don’t need to live my life in fear all the time, but I do need to be cautious. I believe that once I allow my intuition to do what it’s supposed to do, I’ll be fine. I have been filled to the brim with fear about any and everything so my intuitive compass is a little off.
I have lived in the past for too long, harping on things that are no longer relevant. Giving credit to things or moments that don’t deserve my time. I don’t know why I do that. Living in the past is great for the good stuff, but not so much for the bad stuff. It holds you back and stops you from growing and learning. It’s a battle, but I’m here to fight it. I can’t go back and change anything and make it less cringe-worthy, so that’s enough now. I’m working on being present. Right here, right now. I can’t predict the future but I like to try and be prepared. I don’t like being caught off guard; I know it’s where all of my anxiety stems from. Finding the in between is crucial.
I apologize if my writing seems like it’s all over the place, but it’s because I am currently all over the place. I’m getting daily messages that I need to get my life in order. That I need to build the structure and foundation in and for life I want to live. The big message this week was “thoughts become things”. I was the victim for so long because I wanted to be. I wanted the attention or I wanted people to feel bad for me. That sounds fucking pathetic and makes me feel embarrassed. Last week I couldn’t write and didn’t feel confident enough because everything I wrote was unorganized and all over the place. But here I am today, unhinged, if you will, and I just keep thinking “who am I trying to impress here?!” Maybe you’re feeling unhinged too and you need to see that most of the time I’m NOT a fully functional adult. Who knows?
Today was a beautiful day outside and I saw a very rare opportunity and grabbed it. I took a walk during my lunch break. NYC is very scary right now but between last night and this morning I just felt like I should be taking advantage of the nice weather before it’s too hot and I become a vampire (black out curtains and air conditioning ’round the clock). I refused to let the fear of the heroin zombies stop me from doing something that I needed to do for myself. There are days where I sit in my office all day, breathing in recycled air and then having the fucking audacity to wonder why I’m a crabass. Breaking one tiny pattern was my goal today, and I succeeded. I walked 14 blocks on 7th Avenue and paid attention to every detail. I was present. I wasn’t walking aimlessly. I had a destination but I was determined not to let my mind wander. It was pretty cool, you guys. And I know that probably sounds so fucking lame, but I’m what they call “indoorsy”. I get from point A to point B so that I can get back inside. I don’t pay attention to anything walking to and from work, so it was nice to venture beyond that and actually look at what and who I was walking passed.
I know walking around a concrete jungle isn’t exactly being “one with nature” but it was nice to feel the sun on my very pale face. So I’m going to set a goal to break one pattern a week. Get off the skipping record, even if it’s just for 1 day out of the 7. I felt like I accomplished something today, even though it was just a basic thing, and that made me feel better. I gotta take these little steps because eventually they will become bigger steps. I gotta have a tiny bit of faith in myself and taking 1 tiny step out of the comfort zone is a realistic goal, for now.
I’m going to leave you with this: if shit has felt off for you lately, it’s okay. I know that the post pandemic world wants you to think that we are A. Fucking. O. K. but if you’re not, that’s fine. If you’re one of the people that has their shit together, good for you! But if you’re not, please be nice to yourself. You’re gonna get through whatever it is, it just sucks right now because you’re in it. But give yourself the time to deal with whatever it is that’s making you feel fearful, overly cautious, anxious, whatever. Invite it to the table, sit with it, give it some Entenmann’s coffee cake, and when it gets late, ask it nicely to leave…
so if you care to find me, look to the western sky… as someone told me lately “everyone deserves the chance to fly!” and if I’m flying solo, at least I’m flying free… to those who ground me, take a message back from me.. tell them how I am defying gravity… I’m flying high, defying gravity…
Song name: DEFYING GRAVITY/ Artist: Idina Menzel & Kristin Chenoweth (Wicked Original Broadway Cast)/ Year: 2003
TALKING ON EGGSHELLS 