Welcome to Talking on Eggshells! However you got here, I’m so glad you made it!
Maybe you’re dealing with some unresolved trauma, whether it’s recent or it’s been hanging around since childhood? Maybe you’re trying to figure out how to be more assertive and set healthy and realistic boundaries? Maybe you’re trying to figure out how to deal with toxic people in your life? Maybe you have lived your life in a fog and just recently realized that it’s time to start actually living? Maybe you’re disappointed in the world we are currently living in and don’t know how to cope? Maybe you’re not dealing with any of those things but someone important to you is? I am every person that I listed above. And (DISCLAIMER) I am NOT a mental health professional, but I’ve seen a bunch and I have been doing a lot of work on myself over the years. And I just wanted to create a space where I could compile all the things that I’ve learned with all the things I’m still learning so that I can circle back when I need to. Because honestly, sometimes I’m so tired and emotionally drained that I forget that I paid a TON of money that I don’t have to try to get myself back to good.
I have struggled for a very long time with the ability to speak my mind. I’m one of those people who just shoves things down so far because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, or I am afraid of what others will say. I end up getting stuck in situations that pique my anxiety and feelings of dread, I feel uncomfortable, I agree with shit that I don’t agree with just so I don’t look like the asshole who doesn’t agree. And then when I finally hit my internal breaking point, I blow up, cry, lash out, etc. It comes out as a reaction, not a response. Does this sound familiar? If you know this feeling or have witnessed this in people that you care about, you’re in the right place.
I want this blog to be an outlet; for you, for me, for anyone who needs it. A place where you can have the conversations that you might be afraid to have, about what you’re going through, good or bad. I know that you are strong and deep down you know it too. You just can’t express it properly or feel like no one will listen when you finally figure out how to. I have tried very hard to educate myself on how I behave, I am my own worst enemy. I have read a lot of books (I will add links to some of my favorites) and seen different types of mental health professionals. And I haven’t been diagnosed with anything other than anxiety (sprinkled with a dash of depression) but that shit can be crippling when I let it. I just keep telling myself that I am still a work in progress. Did I still want to be a work in progress at 40? That’s a big fat fucking no! But this is life and you can’t compare your progress to the progress of others around you. If you take anything away from this blog let it be this:
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CONFORM TO SOCIETY’S STANDARDS
I want this to be a place for everyone. I want this to be a place where we educate each other and hear each other out. I want this to be a place you come to and you know you won’t feel like absolute shit once you’re here. I want this to be a place where you can be yourself, whoever that ever changing person is. I am not here to judge you and I will not accept anyone else trying to judge you. This will always be a safe space. I am NOT a self-help guru or a life coach. I am a mess 98% of the time and I just wanted to create a soft place to land when you feel yourself falling. Most importantly, I want you to be able to come here, feeling however you’re feeling, and leave here knowing that you are a little bit closer to being who you want to be.
One more tiny DISCLAIMER… as you might have noticed already, I use bad words. I’m going to continue to use bad words. If the bad words bother you, ignore them, they’re just sentence enhancers.
TALKING ON EGGSHELLS 